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Strength in Transition: Loving My Kids and Myself Through Divorce

Danica Burke
2 min readOct 7, 2024

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Navigating a divorce can be challenging. Even a simple, noncontested divorce can take a toll emotionally. You can expect grief and a range of emotions even when you initiate the divorce and you know it's the best decision for you.

No two divorces are alike, and no one can give you a perfect roadmap. Divorce is messy, complicated, and painful. It requires navigating transitions, accepting change, and making sacrifices — all of which are difficult for most people.

In my case, I knew it was time. I had to save myself from a relationship that was not improving but continuing to bring me down.

But knowing divorce was the best thing for me did not remove feelings of sadness, regret, worry, and disappointment. While some of those feelings were related to my spouse, I had already realized he would never be what I needed.

Now my feelings of sadness, worry, and disappointment were related to the fact that my life plans were altered. I never wanted my kids to experience divorce. Our future felt uncertain and would inevitably look different from our past. I wondered if I could successfully navigate us through the transition.

Everywhere I went, I saw seemingly happy, intact families. That was no longer the reality for me or my kids, so I grieved…

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Danica Burke
Danica Burke

Written by Danica Burke

M.Ed., Ed.S. |Coach| Writer| Autoimmune Disease Warrior

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